Consent.

DISCLAIMER: My opinions are sometimes flawed so I am open to learning. Yelling at me in my ask box isn’t how I learn. It’s how I get annoyed and ignore you. Correct me if I am wrong. Don’t yell.

I have been trying to get my thoughts together since the news about Alex Day broke. My thoughts on the matter are extremely hard to put into words. Thus I won’t discuss it as there are plenty of other people that are doing that.

The only thing I can say right now is that there is something we need to discuss, and that is consent itself.

We need to actually teach people about consent when it comes to romantic and sexual relationships, it has taken me a long time to realise I was never taught about consent growing up. I was just lucky to pick it up.

Some people don’t as we have clearly seen. 

Talking about sex in society is very taboo so we always hide it under innuendos. This isn’t helpful. This isn’t safe. 

Teaching kids about sex and consent doesn’t mean they’ll go out and do anything. If anything it protects them.

I’ve heard conversations from female friends that they were always taught to be safe and some men are assholes who’ll try to take advantage.

This is very much true, and this is a lesson that should be taught in general to everyone. But I know if I become a parent, I’ll be telling my kids about consent. I’m referring to everyone being taught this as it’s not just women who get sexually assaulted, even though it does make up the majority.

As men are the majority of sexual offenders, we need to stop the problem at it’s root. When kids are growing up, have a few Sex Ed lessons about it. I remember my lessons on protection in Year 8 which I still remember to this day. I just wish I had a consent lesson in school. Maybe it would of stopped some of the asshats in my school doing morally disgusting things and there would be less victims of sexual abuse.

My thoughts on Consent go further than this, but these two videos articulate exactly what I think. Look out for Sexplanations & LaciGreen as they might make videos about said topic soon and they are great for Sex Education. These two do what I think should be taught in schools.

Hank Green discusses Sexual Abuse and Consent in this video.

I don’t always agree with Lex but she is 100% accurate in this video about Consent.